Improving Communication About Sex
- Do sex checks. State what I want in positive respectful terms.
- Talk about sex more often.
- Listen carefully and non-defensively to what my partner has to say.
- Be willing to try what my partner suggests while respecting my own sexual limits.
- Refrain from blame and criticism. Praise my partner daily.
- Talk about my resistance and hesitancy to communicate about sex.
Good Sex Takes Effort Once You’re Past The Infatuation Stage of Relationship
- Sexual excitement is made not born
- Cultivate sexual mindfulness
Finding Time in Your Busy Life
- If you don’t make an effort, forgetting to have sex can become a habit
- The key to a good sex life within a busy life is planning
Finding Couple Time and Making Sex a Priority
- Ask for help and say no. Divide the labor.
- Find couple time – overlap shifts, extend day care, meet for lunch, cancel appointments, enforce bedtime, use the media, use baby sitters, relatives and friends or trade with other parents.
- Regular date nights, 15 minute face to face talks daily and romantic weekends away.
Conditions for Good Sex
- Turn off the TV, computer
- Go to bed at the same time, and earlier in the evening
- Light meals and little or no alcohol
- Feeling rested and connected
- Candlelight and flowers?
Restore Touch & Affection So That Touch Does Not Equal Sex
- Eye contact
- Touch gently during conversation
- Sit close on couch
- Hold hands
Romantic Love Starter Kit – Cultivate Good Feelings
- Say, “I love you”
- Send me a card in the mail
- Bring me a flower
- Do a chore without being asked
- Go for a walk and talk with me
My Sex Tackle Box – Be Prepared!
- Lock on the door
- White noise or radio near the door
- Phone off in bedroom
- Special underwear & sleepwear
- Massage oil
- Videos, erotic books & magazines
- Contraceptives & lubes
Better Sex through Chemistry?
- Sex is more than just chemistry
- Drugs may reduce or enhance libido
- Consult with your physician Back to