Do sex checks. State what I want in positive respectful terms.
Talk about sex more often.
Listen carefully and non-defensively to what my partner has to say.
Be willing to try what my partner suggests while respecting my own sexual limits.
Refrain from blame and criticism. Praise my partner daily.
Talk about my resistance and hesitancy to communicate about sex.
Good Sex Takes Effort Once You’re Past The Infatuation Stage of Relationship
Sexual excitement is made not born
Cultivate sexual mindfulness
Finding Time in Your Busy Life
If you don’t make an effort, forgetting to have sex can become a habit
The key to a good sex life within a busy life is planning
Finding Couple Time and Making Sex a Priority
Ask for help and say no. Divide the labor.
Find couple time – overlap shifts, extend day care, meet for lunch, cancel appointments, enforce bedtime, use the media, use baby sitters, relatives and friends or trade with other parents.
Regular date nights, 15 minute face to face talks daily and romantic weekends away.
Conditions for Good Sex
Turn off the TV, computer
Go to bed at the same time, and earlier in the evening
Light meals and little or no alcohol
Feeling rested and connected
Candlelight and flowers?
Restore Touch & Affection So That Touch Does Not Equal Sex
Touch gently during conversation
Sit close on couch
Romantic Love Starter Kit – Cultivate Good Feelings
Say, “I love you”
Send me a card in the mail
Bring me a flower
Do a chore without being asked
Go for a walk and talk with me
My Sex Tackle Box – Be Prepared!
Lock on the door
White noise or radio near the door
Phone off in bedroom
Special underwear & sleepwear
Videos, erotic books & magazines
Contraceptives & lubes
Better Sex through Chemistry?
Sex is more than just chemistry
Drugs may reduce or enhance libido
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